The idea that vaginas stretch out is kinda debunked.
Now assholes on the other hand…
I’m not disagreeing with the point of your statement, but I do want to clarify that vaginas absolutely stretch, just not permanently. You’ll have a very different experience if you work up to fisting over a couple of hours vs. launching right into it, because vaginas loosen with arousal.
The important thing is that they are elastic - they don’t stay stretched. They’re not like sweaters that stay stretched out forever after someone large wears them, more like rubber bands that stretch temporarily before returning to their typical size. I think that’s why OP used the term “stretch out,” as too many people seem to think once a vagina stretches, it’s a permanent change. It’s such a weird misconception.
Giving birth stretches a vagina more than any penis (or fist) ever could. Though birth can make some changes that last, it’s more like “Now I need a larger size menstrual cup” than “Now penises just slide back out,” as the popular belief would have people believe.
I don’t think people caring about body count has anything to do with physical things other than drastically increased odds of STIs and certain cancers.
I think mature adults realize that sex is never just sex, it forms attachments whether you want it or not. Screwing around forming and cutting off attachments constantly kind of fucks with your capacity to emotionally invest in an actual relationship.
i think the way you’re describing the process as “screwing around, forming and cutting off attachments” really shows that you think of it in a very black and white sort of way. one can have casual / fwb sex with their friends, and still have a friend relationship with that person. one can even have one-off sex with an acquaintance or stranger, and even if you never meet again, it doesn’t really make it a “cut off” relationship; if you met again, it would be pleasant, circumstances just may not arrange it
just because it’s a more emotionally involved process for you or some people you’ve encountered, doesn’t make it a universal truth
Sure, you CAN do these things. That doesn’t mean it’s not diminishing your capacity to be emotionally invested in your relationships.
We can spend all day blowharding and traversing all the layers of subconscious processes abstracted into social constructs, how we are able to rationalize anything if we want to, and so on. But I think you can only get so far with that, when all I’m trying to describe is something pretty much everyone already understands intuitively.
“You can’t turn a hoe into a housewife”
Works with gender/role flipped too, obviously.
I’m gonna be dead honest with you. The reason you think that high bodycount means that you’re somehow fundamentally different as a person e.g. incapable of being a “housewife” is because you do not have a high bodycount yourself and its incomprehensible for you, when in reality it’s really just not that big a deal.
No one with a high bodycount thinks of themselves as having a high bodycount. At one time all those people had a low bodycount and they were the same people then as they were after they had a high bodycount.
At most they’re “sexually experienced”, in gamer terms they’re the people with 500 games in their steam library and to them the average person is kinda like the person who only plays F2P mobile gachas, so yeah they’ll have higher standards but they also probably know what’s good and what works.
None of this is inherently good or bad, it just is.
Not everyone does form those attatchemnts. There are plenty of poeole out there who can just have sex and have a good time and move on.
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Good point, it also helps filter out people who are innately mental.
That cuts both ways. Who wants someone that becomes obsessed with them. So small body count is out too.
It’s still hard to gauge the stereotypical Lemmy user yet
Neurodivergent middle-aged Linux using anti-AI nostalgiagoggle-wearing very online privacy enthusiast with some degree of fixation on tech, be that privately (their hobby) or professionally (their job).
Logistically questionable, but if true than who gives a shit?
According to Wikipedia it’s true, and as a world record attempt a notary must have been present to count the men. There’s another job I don’t envy.
Did they count each guy’s pumps? How many are required for it to count as intercourse
One
Does that disqualify someone? No.
Would I be interested? Also no.
For me it sure does. Fuck ass people insisting that it’s not okay to disqualify people from your dating pool is stupid
Everybody’s always saying you can deny a relationship with anyone for any reason until it’s a reason they personally don’t agree with.
You have the right to refuse for any reason, that doesn’t absolve you of how you will be perceived though.
There it is. You can choose not to date anyone for any reason, but if you’re smart you won’t tell anyone.
I mean, any reason for not wanting a relationship is a good reason because a relationship where one person doesn’t even really want it is going to be a shit relationship.
That said, I might still judge you if your reasons are shitty.
Why would I care about someone else not dating someone. That’s insane behaviour
my favorite is people who say they don’t care about the reason, and then use the same reason to reject people.
or who whine about being rejected for a reason, and use that same reason to reject people.
