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  • I think it’s mostly about the imbalance. If you struggle with mental health and have very limited capacity for social interaction then you can’t have a bunch of close friends because friendships require effort to maintain them.

    In general this is an issue of our time because we have to deal with a lot of information and communication in our day to day life (specifically work) so there’s not much juice/battery/spoons/whatever-you-want-to-call-it left at the end of the day.

    My parents would always tell me about how much harder their schedules were when they had to feed cattle and clean barns all day but those are physical tasks. They’d go socialize after all this work because their brains were craving it and ignoring some sore muscles is easier than ignoring a sore brain.






  • That’s a wild interpretation of my post. Her inability to lose was merely a symptom. A warning sign that indicates missing coping mechanisms. In my opinion ignoring this is a bad idea. I let kids win a lot btw because there’s only so much frustration tolerance you can expect from a child but if they have none whatsoever you better try your best to help them build it up.

    It’s very possible the parents didn’t have any chance of guiding her through those early years without those severe mental health issues surfacing later but most therapists will tell you that you have the best chances if you tackle these issues early instead of letting them dig their trenches deeper.


  • justsomeguy@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.world•Thems the rules
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    3 months ago

    Acquaintance’s kid was the worst case of sore loser I’ve ever seen. Her parents would always let her win. Eventually she refused to play games with anyone but her parents because she was too afraid of losing. I’d visit and she wouldn’t even want to play fully random games like uno.

    Kid’s been in and out of psych wards throughout her teenage years. It’s possible that underlying mental health predisposition caused her behavior but I think giving in to it only hardened those pathways in her head over the years. It’s vital to learn how to lose and still enjoy yourself.